Question: How do you ask a woman if she’s had an abortion before?
Answer by Tony Garcia:
I’ll put this very simply: What a woman does with her body is her own business. The ethics of abortion are not at issue here; rather, this is one of privacy and respect. You are asking about the autonomy and dignity of the woman herself.
Pregnancy is not a minor inconvenience. And how a woman chooses to deal with an unwanted pregnancy—it’s accompanying risks, distress and pain—is strictly a personal matter.
When a woman has gained the trust, admiration and respect of her partner, she may choose of her own volition to divulge matters of a highly personal nature. However, unsolicited probing of such intimate details is an insensitive, selfish act. It demonstrates how little regard one has for the emotional and psychological consequences of having the woman relive the experience.