How should I deal with this situation, where I have to make a decision concerning ‘meddling’ in someone’s affair?

How should I deal with this situation, where I have to make a decision concerning ‘meddling’ in some… by Tony Garcia

Answer by Tony Garcia:

Years ago the idea of dating a co-worker was frowned upon because of the potential conflict of interests and the possibility of a sexual harassment charge if the relationship breaks down. Junior-senior relationships in the office hurt morale and even harm the company if the people involved forget their professionalism.

Apparently, your aunt’s decision to enter into a romantic relationship with her supervisor was a voluntary one. They both were aware of the consequences regarding their employer’s sexual harassment policies, as well as the effect on their personal and professional lives should the relationship dissolve.

Now, I understand your concern over your aunt’s state of mind. However, I do not care for the label of “cheap slut” you have chosen. She is an adult, and unless she suffers from a condition that renders her clinically unable to function socially, I would refrain from imposing your standards of morality on her behavior.

Many men and women enter into romantic relationships with grandiose notions that are not borne out by the facts. Saying something to your aunt may very well anger her, and conversely reinforce her relationship with this man. Speaking to the man involved may very well have the same results.

Within the modern workplace is the concept of “respondeat superior,” based on the idea of vicarious liability. It holds that a supervisor is responsible for a supervisee’s behavior. So, should the relationship go sour, and their ensuing conduct follow suit, both your aunt and her supervisor may likely find themselves out of work.

How should I deal with this situation, where I have to make a decision concerning ‘meddling’ in someone's affair?

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